Sunday, March 7, 2010


You know that saying, "Honesty is the best policy"? I definitely think whoever started that had the right idea. Being honest and telling the truth is so essential to having trust and being trustworthy, and a relationship can only go so far without trust and honesty. I want to be known as someone who tells the truth and I want to live my life according to that standard.

I think this is one of the key reasons that my relationship with my fiancĂ©, Peter, was able to grow and flourish. Due to a little mix-up when we were about 13, Peter thought I told him something (through a message online) that wasn't true at the time and that would change how we related to each other. When the misunderstanding came to the surface, we made a pact then and there that whenever we asked the other person a question with "honestly" in the sentence that the truth had to be spoken or to say "I can't tell you that now." (We used this keyword, instead of saying "always," because we both have a sarcastic streak and didn't want to limit that humor.) This established trust in our relationship before any romance bloomed, and I am forever thankful that this happened and strengthened our foundation. Valuing honesty will bless every relationship you may find yourself in.

At first, this trait actually resulted in me offending a lot of people, because I made sure to be as honest as I could. I took this value too far and let every one of my opinions be made known as clearly as possible--read that as: I lacked tact. However, as I grow, I continue to learn how to express the truth and opinions I have in a way that is uplifting and encouraging, or to just keep my mouth shut at times. And let me tell you--I'm by no means perfect...but I will keep working on it!

I kind of think of this policy that I've applied to my life in a similar way to Thumper's dad from Bambi--my version is, "If you aren't going to be honest, don't say nothin' at all." 

(The original, "If you can't say somethin' nice, don't say nothin' at all" isn't all that bad relation to tact, for example!)

Honesty is also something core to my faith and something I know God values and even blesses. Here are some verses I found:

Proverbs 19:1         "It is better to be poor and honest than to be a fool and dishonest."

Proverbs 24:26       "It is an honor to receive an honest reply."

Proverbs 28:10b       "...the honest will inherit good things."

Proverbs 28:18a       "The honest will be rescued from harm..."

Honesty is core to who I am. It is a value I am to ever increase in my life, and one I try to recognize and honor is those around me. Be encouraged to take whatever steps you need to increase honesty in your life, and I promise you the rewards will be great.

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1 comment:

Anne said...

Yes, yes, indeed! Good post, sista! I told you about Mike & I and how our relationship started out in the beginning -- honesty in being ourselves... and from there it just branched out and bloomed.

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