You've just got to spend more time with Jesus.
Anytime there is a problem, that should be the first thing I think of. Its like when you get the symptoms of a cold or the flu. "Uho, I've got chills, a headache, and I'm freezing--probably should check my temperature." The same applies to life. "Oh man, I don't feel comfortable with this, this is challenging me and making me want to hide, this is making me angry or want to not think about something--maybe I should check my Jesus-time temperature."
And really, if all I'm doing is going to God and praying about one circumstance, that doesn't even count. (Which stinks a LOT because I do this all the time...) If all I do is go to God after I've figured something out on my own and I feel like I'm ready to run with Him, then He really isn't my Lord. (...ouch...) He needs to be first. He needs to be my source. He even needs to lead my prayer time...even if that means I don't get to discuss my thoughts on this circumstance, and He just wants me to read an un-relating (...usually it ends up relating...) chapter of the Bible over and over so I get it. Or something else other than what I had planned.
So if you are seeing fruit in your life that you don't like or that doesn't line up with Godly principles, I challenge you to step back and redose on Jesus. It'll be painful at first, but in the end its SO GOOD.
If you abide in Me, and My words abide in you, you will ask what you desire, and it shall be done for you. By this My Father is glorified, that you bear much fruit; so you will be My disciples.